# Monthsary

> How to count your monthsary (and when it falls if you got together on the 31st), how many days each milestone is, and monthsary ideas from your first month to your first year.


## How to count your monthsary

A monthsary is counted by the **day of the month** you got together, not by a fixed number of days. If your relationship started on March 14, your first monthsary is April 14, your second is May 14, and so on, whether the month has 30 or 31 days.

When that day doesn't exist in a month (if you started on the 29th, 30th or 31st), the usual way is to celebrate on the last day of that month. If you got together on August 31, for example, your first monthsary is September 30 and your second is October 31.

Don't want to do the maths? The [relationship calculator](/how-long-have-we-been-together/) tells you how long you've been together and the date of your next monthsary.

## How many days is each milestone

Months aren't all the same length, so the number of days varies a little from couple to couple. As a guide:

| Time together | Days, roughly |
| --- | --- |
| 1 month | 28 to 31 days |
| 3 months | 89 to 92 days |
| 6 months | 181 to 184 days |
| 7 months | 212 to 215 days |
| 9 months | 273 to 276 days |
| 1 year | 365 or 366 days |

Then there are the round numbers in days that most couples miss: **100 days** comes just after 3 months, **500 days** at about 1 year and 4 months, and **1,000 days** at about 2 years and 9 months.

## What to do on each monthsary

- **1st monthsary:** something simple and personal, like a note about what you loved most about the beginning.
- **3rd monthsary:** the first real milestone. A recap with your photos from these months is perfect.
- **6th monthsary:** half a year together. Worth a planned date and a surprise link with your photos and your song.
- **11th monthsary:** the eve of your first year. Why not start a countdown to your anniversary?
- **First anniversary:** from here, most couples celebrate once a year. And the counter keeps going: 1,000 days is another reason to celebrate.

And once you're married, every year gets a name: here are the [wedding anniversaries by year](/wedding-anniversary-by-year/).


## Monthsary *questions.*

### What is a monthsary?

It's the monthly anniversary of a relationship: if you got together on March 14, every 14th is your monthsary. Couples in the Philippines, Indonesia and much of Latin America celebrate it, especially during the first year.

### How do you count a monthsary?

By the day of the month you got together, not by a fixed number of days. If you started on March 14, your first monthsary is April 14, the second May 14, and so on.

### When is our monthsary if we got together on the 31st?

In months without a 31st (or a 29th and 30th, in February), most couples celebrate on the last day of the month. If you started on January 31, your first monthsary is February 28 (or 29 in a leap year).

### How long do couples celebrate monthsaries?

Many celebrate every month until their first anniversary and then switch to yearly anniversaries. There's no rule: do what feels right for the two of you.

### How can I see exactly how long we've been together?

Use the [relationship calculator](/how-long-have-we-been-together/): enter the day you got together and it shows your years, months and days together and when your next monthsary is.